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Intro Post

Hello! I’m panda, check out my gender. I use they/xe/vae primarily and if you want to only use one set that’s okay. I am very, very aro. I’m very normal about Omori and Mathematics (lying)

Mutuals if you consistently reblog/post shipping content, please that tag it as #shipping

My incredible boyfriend is @tesco-brand-aromantics <2


I kindly ask NSFW/18+ blogs, discourse heavy blogs, and shipping centred blogs to not interact


Please don’t refer to me with words like “bro” or “dude”. Whilst they may be “gender neutral” in your vernacular, they aren’t really in mine.


Opinions/stances:

  • Gender dysphoria is not a necessary condition to be transgender
  • I support all “weird” and “contradictory” queer identities of good faith, e.g. mspec gays/lesbians, lesboys/turigirls, xenogenders, queerhets, etc
  • Sex and romance are not intrinsically bad. Whilst the way that society at large interacts with them is flawed, completely getting rid of them is not the solution
  • Trans men face a unique form of oppression and “transandrophobia” is a good term to describe it
  • “Narc abuse” isn’t real. There are ways of describing your abuse and abuser which do not demonise personality disorders
  • I’m both anti-monarchy and anti-unionist (not against trade unions, but the UK being united)
  • I support informed self-diagnosis
  • Alterhumanity, nonhumanity, and therianthropy are real
  • Tone tags are not useless just because you personally don’t find them helpful
  • Making fun of British people is not the progressive win you think it is. You are just playing into the deeply rooted classism. You are not funny (that includes saying “Bri'ish”)
  • The previous point goes doubly if you’re making fun of non-English Brits
  • Sex repulsion/aversion is not an excuse for sex negativity

I hope you enjoy your say!

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treegona
klavierpanda

Please remember aroace and aroallo do not form a binary. There are people in between and people outside of it

klavierpanda

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[ID: Tumblr tags that read "I mean aren't all ace-spec folks covered by th greater ace umbrella regardless of (a)romantic orientation". End ID]

Sure but there are people who are neither allosexual or acespec. Attraction doesn't fit neatly into little categories that don't influence each other. Look at alloallos for example, it's just assumed that when someone says they're bisexual that means both romantic and sexual attraction because for a lot of people those go hand in hand. They have no need to label their romantic orientation. There are people who feel similarly when it comes to aspec identities. The point of the post is to highlight that there are aros with a more complicated relationship to sexuality than can be explained by being either allosexual or acespec.

treegona

I'm sorry but. What? Either you're the """normal""" amount of attracted to people (or more, I'm not judging), or you fall under the larger ace spectrum umbrella. Gray aces, demisexuals and other more micro labels fall under that umbrella. What other option is there?

klavierpanda

There are those of us who don’t wish to label our sexual attraction for various reasons. Aro neu is one such example of this. Another is the case where someone’s sexuality cannot be understood without the lense of their aromantic attraction, which is my case, which is often called non-sam aro. There is some nuance with both of these, for example someone who is aroallo may also identify as non-sam aro because their allosexuality can only be understood through an aromantic lense (and similar with someone who is aroace and non-sam aro).

I am using specifically aro examples because this post is about the large variety of aro experiences and that it can’t just be boiled down to aroace or aroallo.

entropy-sea-system
entropy-sea-system

As someone from a culture where arranged marriage is what is seen as the ideal, please remember that marriage being seen as mandatory is really NOT always the same as romance being seen as mandatory. In some places you will be persecuted for engaging in romance (even if you check all the societal privilege boxes) while still being told you have to get married in an arranged marriage.

Its important to talk about romance negativity and to really truly consider how amatonormativity and romance negativity and sex negativity all work differently in different cultures. Only focusing on the experiences of white people in the united states will not give you a complete picture of how any of these work.

treegona
klavierpanda

Please remember aroace and aroallo do not form a binary. There are people in between and people outside of it

klavierpanda

image

[ID: Tumblr tags that read “I mean aren’t all ace-spec folks covered by th greater ace umbrella regardless of (a)romantic orientation”. End ID]

Sure but there are people who are neither allosexual or acespec. Attraction doesn’t fit neatly into little categories that don’t influence each other. Look at alloallos for example, it’s just assumed that when someone says they’re bisexual that means both romantic and sexual attraction because for a lot of people those go hand in hand. They have no need to label their romantic orientation. There are people who feel similarly when it comes to aspec identities. The point of the post is to highlight that there are aros with a more complicated relationship to sexuality than can be explained by being either allosexual or acespec.

a-crow-with-rights-and-anxiety
bodhimcbodeface

I love the term “loanwords” because it implies that you intend to give them back.

bodhimcbodeface

*dumps a box full of words on French’s front porch* You never came back for your shit.

cipheramnesia

Loanwords, loaned to the British Museum so

nothing-an-iratze-cant-fix

Would everyone like to know the best thing??? There are two types of borrowed word - loan words and calques. Loan words are words taken directly from the language i.e. tattoo, sushi, guillotine. Calques are words literally translated from the language before being borrowed i.e. beer garden, scapegoat, killer whale (incorrectly calqued, the original actually means whale killer which is a whole other post).

Did anyone notice the fun thing?

Loan word is a calque (German lehnwort lit. Loan+word) and calque is a loan word (French calque - tracing or imitation). Have a good day!